The Value Of Friendship

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“Friendfluence is the powerful and often unappreciated role that friends—past and present—play in determining our sense of self and the direction of our lives.” Psychology Today describes how impactful your friendships are in relation to your personality and overall makeup. Male friendships are created in bars, at work, and everywhere in between. Men find common ground to bond over which blossoms into lifelong relationships. Finding friendship is valuable for everyone and will positively impact your future.

Most men have different groups of friends. You have your work friends, school friends, family friends, etc. Each group is valuable to your life in different ways. For example, your work friends can help you through tough times at the office at happy hour, where you can vent together about workplace issues. Most of your school friends will move away or get married, limiting your ability to see one another. Regardless of how often you see any of these friends, remember how important they are to your overall well-being and make the effort to enrich or restore these friendships over the course of your life.

Male friends are especially skilled at keeping us grounded. If you’re making one or a series of foolish decisions, your friends are there to let you know about it. You may be going to the club too often or acting out of line when you’re with a group. When you are screwing up, your closest friends are there to let you know the truth. They are your support group in positive and negative ways alike. Without the criticism of your friends, one bad decision may send you down a spiral that is difficult to get out of.

While keeping us grounded, close friends also lift us up when we need them most. During times of grief or sadness, your best friends will support and help you through the tough times. Most importantly, they will know what you need most to get back on track. They will be your psychologists, your life coaches, and your most positive influences when you’re at your worst. Since they know you best, your friends will know the most effective ways to pick you up when you’re in need.

Close male friends can also answer any personal questions you can’t ask your parents or other family members. Whether it’s a question about your body or related to women, male friends have the same anatomy and have experienced similar situations. They can give advice related to dating, especially older friends with more experience. If their advice works, it shows that your friends have your best interests in mind.

It is also easiest for you to be vulnerable around trusted friends. Society has labeled men that show their feelings as weak and fragile; while this is utter nonsense, it does subconsciously stop most men from showing emotion in public places. Most men feel comfortable expressing their feelings with their best friends, especially those friends you’ve experienced life with. If those friends have helped you through tough times, it is easier to feel safe being your true self around them.

Spending time with your friends fills the void of loneliness you may feel occasionally. While you may not say much over drinks, the positive feelings of spending time with your friends is beneficial. Men experience feelings of comradery, competition, and even intimacy in these situations. Simple events like going to the movies or a football game enrich us emotionally unlike other relationships.

Over time, you will learn the ins and outs of your closest friends. Just like other relationships, you should go out of your way to do nice things for them. Surprise birthday parties, meaningful gifts, and group vacations are ways to show your close friends they’re important to you. Additionally, you can listen to your friends’ problems and give them life advice. Treat your friends the way you want them to treat you in return. The best ways to maintain friendships is to show them you care in any way you can.

If you’re having trouble finding friends, there are ways to make things easier. Since friendships are developed over common interests, you should attend events related to those interests. If you love sports, you can bond with others at bars or live games. If you love comic books or video games, Comicon's may be more suitable. Finding friends at work can be easier by attending work events or related activities. Finding and maintaining friendships is like every other aspect of your life; if you make the effort, you will succeed in finding the best people.

Friendships are a vital part of every man’s life. Your best friends will support you, tell you the truth, and motivate you to be your best. They will also keep you grounded and be your biggest adversaries. While every relationship is unique, your close friends will always be your biggest support group in a variety of ways. We all need close friends to help us through the best and worst parts of our lives. If you’ve lost friends in the past, find ways to repair those relationships. For the ones you currently have, make the best of them. We all need close friends to be at our best self.