Conor McGregor: A Lesson Of Anger Management
"I hope this incident serves as a timely reminder of the real dangers to life involved when people throw a punch. Too many people have lost their lives in such incidents. I would urge people to think before they ever contemplate throwing a punch, you could cost someone their life and spend the rest of your own in a prison cell." - Detective Pete Jackson, Bolton, England.
All it takes is one bad decision. Everything we have built over our adult lives can be gone in the blink of an eye. Whether it’s by mistake or a conscious decision, anger and violence can destroy one’s career, much like Conor McGregor’s current situation. Once the biggest ticket in fighting, McGregor is facing numerous lawsuits, a possible prison sentence, and the potential end of his fighting career because he chose to throw a handcart at the windshield of a bus instead of controlling his temper. For the rest of us, your career would almost certainly be irreparably damaged in similar circumstances.
The incident took place in Brooklyn, NY on Friday, April 6. McGregor arrived at the Barclays Center with a group of friends, looking for fellow UFC fighter Khabib Nurmagomedov in response to an altercation from the previous night; Nurmagomedov was involved in a shouting match with a friend of McGregor’s in a hotel hallway. Unfortunately for McGregor, Nurmagomedov was exiting the facility on a bus with other fighters scheduled to compete the following night at UFC 223. Instead of letting it go, McGregor chased the bus and launched a cart at the windshield, spraying glass at several other fighters, one of which sustained injuries that kept him from fighting on Saturday night. McGregor has been charged with three counts of assault and one of criminal mischief. This entire ordeal could have been avoided if he had just controlled his anger.
According to UFC President Dana White, McGregor believes he did the right thing. He came to the defense of his friend after Nurmagomedov accosted him. Everyone that is loyal to their friends and family has dealt with a similar scenario. When our loyalties or tempers cloud our judgment, we make rash decisions that can ruin the future. In 2013, a 17-year-old boy named Eden Lomax killed a grown man with one punch when the man mentioned suicide, a topic that triggered his fury. Lomax was convicted of murder and sentenced to life in prison. With one terrible decision, his entire life was turned upside-down. Although this is a radical example, it illustrates the consequences of one terrible lapse in judgment.
Lomax and McGregor held grudges over previous events. They damaged their futures because they refused to move on from their past. While some negative events in your life are unforgettable, they cannot become a driving force for your future. These types of issues hinder our ability to think clearly and live fulfilling lives. Moving on from the negative parts of your past is essential to achieve happiness.
Anger is an emotional response to negative thoughts or events we face. Feelings of sadness, frustration, discontent in your career and relationships boil over, leading to angry outbursts. While everyone faces hardship, constant negativity leads to a build-up of angry feelings, eventually exploding in a violent outburst of varying degrees. Learning to cope with problematic events is an important step in avoiding violent outbursts.
One way to avoid these types of situations is to manage our anger responsibly. Talking about our feelings with people we care about is an easy way to calm down; friends and family can help us find positive methods to use in future situations. Simpler methods such as deep breathing, positive thoughts, or keeping a diary are also beneficial ways to manage potentially volatile situations.
In scenarios where your tempers flare, the first step should be to evaluate the situation. Is this a reasonable reaction? What are the potential consequences of an angry response? By simply stopping to think, the worst aspects of your temper may subside in those few seconds. Reflection is a quick way to neutralize your anger.
Besides the consequences it can have on your career and relationships, excessive anger can damage our bodies and minds too. According to WebMD, suppressed anger can lead to anxiety and depression. Constant negative feelings damage your mind and body. “Chronic anger has been linked to health issues such as high blood pressure, heart problems, headaches, skin disorders and digestive problems.” Anger will damage every aspect of your mind, body, and soul.
The inability to manage anger responsibly can destroy every aspect of your life. It can ruin relationships, marriages, your career and even your ability to feel happy. Conor McGregor let his temper make his choices for him, which may damage his career. Violence in any manner shows a lack of maturity and a complete loss of self-control. As adult men, violent outbursts cannot get in the way of your aspirations to be the best version of yourself. We should learn from McGregor’s situation; these moments must be managed maturely, otherwise your future is at risk.